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Idealizing People
May. 9th, 2010 11:07 am“Never idealize others. They will never live up to your expectations. Don’t over-analyse your relationships. Stop playing games. A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness.”
-Leo F. Buscaglia (from http://www.positivityblog.com)
This is an issue for me because I do tend to idealize others. Sometimes I get disappointed, but a lot of times I don't. I give people a lot of leeway in what they do before I stop idealizing them. Maybe it's partly because I think so low of myself and I think people have to do a lot of really bad things to be "worse" than me. I don't idealize everyone, at least, but I do tend to like people pretty immediately and for very simple reasons. I think I'm pretty genuine in how I express myself... I still act myself always -- I just often get "wow"'ed by people. I don't tend to handle it well when people really let me down, though. I have to learn to see people as simply my equals and keep the perspective that I make a lot of mistakes, just like them.
-Leo F. Buscaglia (from http://www.positivityblog.com)
This is an issue for me because I do tend to idealize others. Sometimes I get disappointed, but a lot of times I don't. I give people a lot of leeway in what they do before I stop idealizing them. Maybe it's partly because I think so low of myself and I think people have to do a lot of really bad things to be "worse" than me. I don't idealize everyone, at least, but I do tend to like people pretty immediately and for very simple reasons. I think I'm pretty genuine in how I express myself... I still act myself always -- I just often get "wow"'ed by people. I don't tend to handle it well when people really let me down, though. I have to learn to see people as simply my equals and keep the perspective that I make a lot of mistakes, just like them.
