Love vs. Fear

[unico_love]

"True love casts out fear." [...]

"Fearlessness brings with it the conviction that everything in our lives is part of our destiny, exactly what we need in order to become who we really are. Not only is it all right to be myself, it is even all right to let events be themselves. This means entering into a wholehearted engagement with our circumstances rather than arguing with them. Fear argues with circumstances. "No, I do not want that. Do not let that in." Love says: "Let it all happen just as it needs to." In Jung's words, this is "the unconditional yes to that which is, without subjective protest." The givens of existence live through us with our unreserved assent."
-pg. 105-106, When Love Meets Fear, by David Richo

Comments

[violetmint.livejournal.com]

Not that it pertains to your train of thought, but true love definitely doesn't cast out fear in the case of loving one's children. True love is the natural companion of fear, then. The one consuming fear is that you will live to bury your own children, rather than the natural passage of them burying you.

Come to think of it, I think all true love may come with the natural fear of losing the loved one to the great beyond. Even if you can't argue with circumstances, some may simply suck more than others.

Perhaps I'm not much of a Jungian. No, I know I'm not..

[unico-love.livejournal.com]

I like Jung a lot. I do think it's scary to lose loved ones, though. I would have to read more specifically on how he thought about that. This book, at least, mentions grief a lot and sees it as a normal reaction to bad events.

[violetmint.livejournal.com]

I certainly couldn't argue that it's better to love, lose and grieve than to live a life alone in avoidance of grief. But man, it doesn't FEEL better, at the time you're grieving..