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I've read that being an INFJ and an enneagram 4 is common and I am one myself. It seems a bit confusing, though, how the Fe and focus on the self in 4's combine. I do feel I'm Fe more than Fi. I care a lot about group values and harmony among people. I think a lot about what other people will think. I'm very expressive of my emotions and share myself with other people. Sometimes people influence me too easily because I care so much what people think. I do care about what people think of me.
As far as enneagram 4 goes, with a 3 wing, I don't think it is at all contradictory that I share my emotions so easily. People see me as emotional. Also having an interest in group harmony doesn't mean I don't try to be authentic (which is very important to me) -- I'm just selective about how I express myself to do the least social damage. I am very expressive of myself and creative and artistic. My relationships are very important to me (both Fe and 4) and I fear abandonment more than almost anything else. I don't cope with abandonment or betrayal well at all. I'm like a walking open wound. I want to be unique, yet accepted.
As far as enneagram 4 goes, with a 3 wing, I don't think it is at all contradictory that I share my emotions so easily. People see me as emotional. Also having an interest in group harmony doesn't mean I don't try to be authentic (which is very important to me) -- I'm just selective about how I express myself to do the least social damage. I am very expressive of myself and creative and artistic. My relationships are very important to me (both Fe and 4) and I fear abandonment more than almost anything else. I don't cope with abandonment or betrayal well at all. I'm like a walking open wound. I want to be unique, yet accepted.
