Creating Your Own Reality

I have spent so much of the past year despondent and emotionally tortured; I felt so out of control of my life. I still often do. But there are things I can do to improve my life and my perspective; it's just difficult to change habitual responses to extreme stress. I need to constantly remind myself of the good things in my life and the choices I do have. I have to learn how to say "no" when I don't want to do something, without using excuses to isolate myself and miss out on life even more/increase my fears and depression. In many ways, as this book states "I create my own reality." I can choose how I view things and if I use events as opportunities for learning or happiness or just waddle through suffering, not trying to actively improve my situation. There is no reason for me to take things as personally as I do, to get as hopeless as I do just from minor setbacks. I need to stand up for myself while being respectful of others. As a friend once mentioned, I need to learn to ask questions instead of making assumptions out of fear. I need to make the happiness I can feel a more constant way of experiencing reality.

(Inspired by Martyrdom -- Transforming Your Dragons: How to Turn Fear Patterns into Personal , Power).