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unico_love) wrote2010-04-29 04:32 pm
unico_love) wrote2010-04-29 04:32 pm
The Happiness Project -- Happy and Unhappy
"First is the preparation stage, when you identify what brings you joy, satisfaction, and engagement, and also what brings you guilt, anger, boredom, and remorse." From: http://www.happiness-project.com/happiness_project/start-.html
I am going to try to start my own "Happiness Project," but my resolutions will basically be the same as the 101 Things to Do in 1,001 Days. I might make a shorter list for this project or I may just make different, related lists.
I'm putting this under a cut because it's so long:
What Makes Me Happy
Spending time with animals/Going to see animals
Reading
Praying
Watching certain television programs
Seeing new (and often unusual) movies
Anime
Some video games
Hiking
Having close, intense friendships and relationships, in general
Shopping when I have extra money
Cuddling with people I care about or animals
Making positive contributions to people, animals, or the environment
Eating ice cream
Going on trips
Disney World and Disney in general
Making goals
Writing poems
Coming up with ideas for plots and characters and scenes (leading to novels or short stories)
Making and looking at art
Going to museums and historical places
Flowers and trees blooming
Making up with someone I had a disagreement with or grew distant from
Listening to my favorite music (especially Tori Amos)
Completing exhausting or stressful tasks
Feeling love or gratitude for/to someone or something
Getting surprise gifts (or any gifts, really)
Giving someone a gift they seem to really like
Doing volunteer work
Tutoring people
Beautiful spaces, indoors and outdoors
Collecting unicorns, My Little Ponys, stuffed animals, and anime figurines
Buying books
Fairy tales in any way/shape/form
Wearing pretty clothes that are still casual enough for me to spend time outdoors or in inclement weather
Having conversations about spirituality or aesthetics or values with people similar in their openness
My mother being kind to me and giving
People or movies or books or animals making me laugh
Going to bed knowing I made the most of the day
Saying kind things that I mean to other people
Mocha coffee drinks
Some deserts (often involving chocolate)
Doing well on a project
Being complimented
Doing ballet, gymnastics, and yoga
Bike riding with other people
Acts of kindness to strangers and people you know who are in need of help
What Makes Me Unhappy
Finding out someone I am very attached to doesn't share an important value of mine
Being betrayed or lied to or cheated on
Being criticized, especially harshly about subjective matters
Being told I'm dumb and other such insults
Losing a friend or loved one
Doing poorly on a project
Free-floating anxiety
Feelings of inertia before I start a project (and the anxiety it will turn out badly)
Hurt or dead animals, trees, or plants
My mother being upset
My brother stealing from me, hurting me, or causing my problems
People making negative assumptions about me
People being unwilling to forgive
Gaining weight
Feeling bloated
Remembering bad things with my father and other people
Ruminating on negative events or events I interpret negatively
Being wrong (which leads to embarrassment and disliking myself)
The damage being done to the environment
Watching movies that are triggering of my PTSD (can be hard to guess which ones)
Being behind locked doors (I feel trapped)
Vomiting or feeling sick to my stomach or having bathroom problems
Feeling fat or unintelligent or uncreative compared to someone else
Comparing myself to others, in general
Expecting an event to be stressful and terrible when that is unlikely so or I could escape
Fighting video games
Anything about wars
Arrogance
People who try to tell me what I should do or feel
Feeling left out/unliked/less important
Feeling like I'm difficult and cause other people problems
Other people's problems stressing me out
Feeling lonely if I'm alone
Friends fighting/not getting along/not tolerating each other
Not being given definite answers/concrete answers
Spending too much time around a lot of people or in other overstimulating places
Smoking (not me, just in general)
Alcoholism, drinking too much (my father was a severe alcoholic)
People pressuring me to have their values or beliefs
Political arguments (because my father was nuts over politics)
I am going to try to start my own "Happiness Project," but my resolutions will basically be the same as the 101 Things to Do in 1,001 Days. I might make a shorter list for this project or I may just make different, related lists.
I'm putting this under a cut because it's so long:
What Makes Me Happy
Spending time with animals/Going to see animals
Reading
Praying
Watching certain television programs
Seeing new (and often unusual) movies
Anime
Some video games
Hiking
Having close, intense friendships and relationships, in general
Shopping when I have extra money
Cuddling with people I care about or animals
Making positive contributions to people, animals, or the environment
Eating ice cream
Going on trips
Disney World and Disney in general
Making goals
Writing poems
Coming up with ideas for plots and characters and scenes (leading to novels or short stories)
Making and looking at art
Going to museums and historical places
Flowers and trees blooming
Making up with someone I had a disagreement with or grew distant from
Listening to my favorite music (especially Tori Amos)
Completing exhausting or stressful tasks
Feeling love or gratitude for/to someone or something
Getting surprise gifts (or any gifts, really)
Giving someone a gift they seem to really like
Doing volunteer work
Tutoring people
Beautiful spaces, indoors and outdoors
Collecting unicorns, My Little Ponys, stuffed animals, and anime figurines
Buying books
Fairy tales in any way/shape/form
Wearing pretty clothes that are still casual enough for me to spend time outdoors or in inclement weather
Having conversations about spirituality or aesthetics or values with people similar in their openness
My mother being kind to me and giving
People or movies or books or animals making me laugh
Going to bed knowing I made the most of the day
Saying kind things that I mean to other people
Mocha coffee drinks
Some deserts (often involving chocolate)
Doing well on a project
Being complimented
Doing ballet, gymnastics, and yoga
Bike riding with other people
Acts of kindness to strangers and people you know who are in need of help
What Makes Me Unhappy
Finding out someone I am very attached to doesn't share an important value of mine
Being betrayed or lied to or cheated on
Being criticized, especially harshly about subjective matters
Being told I'm dumb and other such insults
Losing a friend or loved one
Doing poorly on a project
Free-floating anxiety
Feelings of inertia before I start a project (and the anxiety it will turn out badly)
Hurt or dead animals, trees, or plants
My mother being upset
My brother stealing from me, hurting me, or causing my problems
People making negative assumptions about me
People being unwilling to forgive
Gaining weight
Feeling bloated
Remembering bad things with my father and other people
Ruminating on negative events or events I interpret negatively
Being wrong (which leads to embarrassment and disliking myself)
The damage being done to the environment
Watching movies that are triggering of my PTSD (can be hard to guess which ones)
Being behind locked doors (I feel trapped)
Vomiting or feeling sick to my stomach or having bathroom problems
Feeling fat or unintelligent or uncreative compared to someone else
Comparing myself to others, in general
Expecting an event to be stressful and terrible when that is unlikely so or I could escape
Fighting video games
Anything about wars
Arrogance
People who try to tell me what I should do or feel
Feeling left out/unliked/less important
Feeling like I'm difficult and cause other people problems
Other people's problems stressing me out
Feeling lonely if I'm alone
Friends fighting/not getting along/not tolerating each other
Not being given definite answers/concrete answers
Spending too much time around a lot of people or in other overstimulating places
Smoking (not me, just in general)
Alcoholism, drinking too much (my father was a severe alcoholic)
People pressuring me to have their values or beliefs
Political arguments (because my father was nuts over politics)